My name is Sara and I am 29 years old. I was born in august of 1979. I was born to Patricia Mae Withers. She, at the time was not in the best shape to say the least. From what I have been told she was into all kinds of drugs and God knows what else. I had an older sister named Christy and an older brother named Eric. Well because Patricia couldn't take care of us she decided to give us up for adoption. In the begining she was going to give up all 3 of us but when it got to D-Day she basicly chickened out and gave up Eric and I and kept Christy. The attorney who was helping Patricia with this personally knew the people who would ultimitly become my parents. When he got us he called my mom and dad and told them to come pick us up. When they got us they said that Iwas the most tiny frail thing that they had seen(12 lbs at 12 months) and Eric was just scared and didn't know what was going on. It was a few day's after our birthdays. he had just turned 2 and I had just turned 1. Our lives were forever changed that day. We grew up in a great family. When we joined the Roberts clan there were already 4 children before us. Ross was 18, Gena was 14, Jodi was almost 10. Lori Ann had pased away when she was 9 a few years before. We were welcomed with open arms. It was not always easy or pleasant to say the least but non the less it was good. We were brought up in a good christian home and had morals and values instilled in us from day one. As Eric and I grew up we did get into plenty of trouble. We started drinking way too young and didn't always make the best choices but our familywas there for us through it all. I ultimatly got into some pretty bad things and moved to Tulsa OK when I was a senior in high school. That is where Gena and her husband lived. I began to make even worse choices and my life just got worse from then on. I met my first husband when I was working at a Girl Scout camp the summer of 1998. That lasted about 6 months. Then I met my second husband in Janurary of 1999. I ended up getting pregnat in February and we wer married in May. D'Layna N. Smith was born on Jan. 8th 2000. she was absolutly beautiful. The perfect opurtunity was befor me to straighten up my life but I regretably did not take it. I left her with my parents all the time and just couldn't handle the responability of being a mom. her father joined the Army and left for boot camp in November of 2000and she and I moved in with my parents. That just made things worse. I was gone all the time and had discovered cocaine. It was the best thing at the time. I could go out get messd up and not have to think about all my responability's back home. My husband at the time ended up being stationed at Fort Bragg, North Carolina and I moved up there with D'Layna when him and I got settled. That lasted 1 day. He was abusive and I was very stubborn. He moved out and D'Layna moved back in with my parents. I stayed in North Carolina. That was pretty much the end of us. The next 4 or 5 years would be filled with men and drugs and so many bad things. I ened up giving partial custody of D'Layna to my parents. In August of 2004 I met Joe. He was perfect. Good looking and in the Army, and did I mention that he was good looking?? We dated for awhile and ended up getting married in May of 2005. That was the beginign of my new life. I had givin up the drugs but still hung on to the alcohol. We ended up in Fort Hood Texas with the Army and that was a good move. I was closer to my family and new where I was so to speak. He ended up getting deployed to Iraq in November of 2006 and would be gone for 12 months. At first it was okay. I got a job and loved it. After awhile the lonlieness set n and we were fighting all the time. Over the phone. I made the mistake of cheating on him and ended up pregnant. I was shocked. At first I thought about not having the baby or just giving it up for adoption and just couldn't do either. I now have a beautiful little boy. I had to tell Joe about the baby before he got back from Iraq. I prepared myself for him to say get out and I never want to see you again. That was not the case. Although he was very upset, he chose to stay. When he got home I was about 5 months pregnant. It was not easy at all to be together. He was very angry at me and we fought alot. Then Noah came. He was the most beautiful thing ever. And Joe fell in love with him. When Noah was about 4 months old during a move back to Fort Bragg, we found out that I was expecting again. You can imagine our surprise. We got to Fort Bragg and in April of this year we had another beautiful little boy, Nathan. We are all doing great and every day is such a blessing.
Well, now that we are current......In August of this year I was looking on the web for my birthmother and only by Gods own grace I found her on myspace. I am sure you can imagine my excitement. I imediatly called my mother and told her. The next morning I got online and sent her a message. That will forever be the day that my life changed. At first it was okay. We talked and I got to meet my sister. My brother was taking to it way more than I was. I had never wanted to know the who's, what's, where's,and the why's. The had insisted on telling me. And then they began lieing to me about things. I call them out on there lies and told them that Eric needed to know the truth and it upset them to no end. Now I do not talk to either of them and barely talk to my brother cause he is so angry at me for calling them out on thiere B.S. Hopefully things will get better but I don't see how. I know that God has got a plan and will bring me through all of this. I just feel so betrayed. Which I never thought would be possible by people who I barely knew. Everyday is getting better and it has deffantly brought me closer to my mom and sisters. Maybe that is what God wanted. I am planning on updating this blog about 1 a week so we will see what happens.
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